Believe In Believing

Believing in yourself is probably one of the hardest things to do when you have no reason to, especially when all you see is nothing but someone who has lost all hope or value, someone who isn’t really looked at when they walk by on the street, someone who as time passes by nobody notices. How can you believe in yourself when nobody does, how ?

Deep within yourself you can’t figure out something, something you see that is worth you having thoughts of believing you could be something other than a failure. I want to share this story with you guys. This story is about a boy who’s never once had any reason to believe in himself nor believe in believing that one day he could be something. This boy was always different from the rest but he never really had a reason to believe in himself, so because all he has ever gone through have been a constant wave of downfalls from an awfully young age. He began to wander the streets looking for hope as that was the only time he had to reflect on himself. He always questioned “ Will i ever be something more than this “ something more than this boy who has nothing positive going for himself. He wanted perfection, he strived for it, though accepting that there wasn’t anything “perfect” about him. Taking into account every negative thing in his past, kept a positive state of mind. As this boy got older he always remembered where he had come from, as time went by the past began to fade although he still remembered the hard times. I will pause that story there.

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Believing is something that starts from within, how can someone believe in you when you don’t even believe in yourself – question that! You have got to start with you, if you want to be heard & seen it all starts with YOU. Believe in what you see within yourself, believe in what you hear from within yourself. All of those things will give you comfort and within yourself you will automatically believe that whatever is out there is within your reach regardless of the circumstances. Everything starts from you. I recommend you read the article Law Of Attraction, it talks about the importance of self belief. There may be days where you lack inner belief because the burdens of life get on top of you, that doesn’t mean you lose belief in yourself. Always remember hope is bigger than fear, fear is a mental state which can be tackled by hope & belief.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” – Lao Tzu
Text written by Marco Jair Lopez

Oct 21, 2014

England, London

Confidence

 

Confidence is almost the same thing as when i speak of being yourself but it has its own twist to it. Being confident as a person is something I 100% know and probably my strongest trait, I know how it feels to go from someone that has 0 confidence within themselves in terms of how I look, how I act and my own opinions always felt like anything to do with me just wasn’t valid, I was afraid to come out my shell to then having 100% confidence but its not a thing to brag about, having confidence isn’t something you can show off to people its something you show within yourself.

 

Confidence is a trait that not all have but yes we can all build on it and have it in its own particular way, so what helped me become confident was my past experiences mixed with the music I listen to, so I began to realise while I mixed both those things together i started coming out of my shell more, then eventually I stood on my feet and was finally able to like what I saw of myself, accepted my actions because that was me and those that didn’t like it don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind it.

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You know we can all sit there and moan about how bad its been, how you don’t have it easier or how one is better because they have this that and the other. But better than all of that is YOU we all have our own stories, they don’t call history “HIS-STORY” for no reason so embrace that about yourself, while you’re alive everyday you’re creating your story be proud and be confident of who you are, so instead of complaining how you could be better think about how it could be much worse but your still here and that is where confidence should come in as a person. Our experiences and challenges should be making you stronger for the next day don’t compare yourself to others because we are all different and i feel like that is what people have forgotten about themselves.

 

Confidence is what helps you lead and explore, without it you won’t be able to move on as a person, you won’t really learn new things about yourself, you will rather take someone elses solution to your problem not knowing that they aint you, the advice may be good but they don’t walk away with the emotions you do so that is why i speak on having confidence, its very important even if its little as long as its a start. Confidence is that inner voice in your body that constantly gives you reminders about yourself the moment you feel upset over something. So if you wish to ever be anything in this world you have to start first by building your confidence because you will need that guidance within. I am going to end this post with one of my secrets this amazing Steve Jobs speech that i feel like is relevant to this topic but I took out a section of it.

 

“ Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life

Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’sthinking

Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice

And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. “

Text written by Marco Jair Lopez

Oct 9, 2014

England, London

The power of being yourself, the power of YOU.

Where do i start ? when i say YOU who do you think of straight away ?

No, I am not talking of the person you pretend to be when everyone is watching, I am not talking of all the other people you try act like besides YOU, thats who am talking about here its YOU the person who when you look into your ID it only says your name and nobody elses you know from time to time i think some people ID`s should have all the rest of the names they tend to act like but thats a whole other story, when you look in the mirror that individual there is whose attention i seek because am here to tell you to stop trying to fit in, stop minimizing yourself to be around people who wouldn’t accept the real you, so you gotta hide your inner self and be this individual that people think they know but they dont really really know your just trying to fit in like the rest and be average.

I always say the mirror is the truth you can’t look in the mirror and tell a lie so i always tell people you wanna know the truth about yourself look in that mirror and tell me who you are right now is what your happy with, bring out your inner self forget what people think or care about you because you will find yourself stuck in a maze for a very long time if you care more about other peoples opinions and comments than you care of yourself, so why hide ? why feel like you’re not good enough ? why feel like you’re the one who must adapt, you got to be the leader in your life and be proud of that image in the mirror, you come first by any means necessary, question if thats how you would want your cousins or siblings to live, i always say the truth will set you free. I found myself lost when i was around the age of 15 to 18 until i realised i gotta stop all this trying to be something am not, keeping up with this trend and the latest thing it wasn’t really who i was, i thought it was about fitting in and following people slowly i started to realise that i forgot about myself due to being busy with what people thought about me but i stepped out the box once and saw how deluded i was because half the crowd i was around couldn’t care less about me if something deep was to occur.

So as time went by i grew and matured and started being myself more started leading by example because i would want my friends and relatives to realise being true to yourself is the key and even till now anyone can tell you am myself, i don’t try to be anything but me some will hate that because they couldn’t ever take that risk.  One day when i found that comfort within me and looked in the mirror it told me the truth BE YOURSELF forget about what everyone thinks because this is your life and nobody elses you only get one chance at life so why waste it caring about what people think and trying to fit in, for what i ask ? there’s a reason why when somebody calls YOUR name only you turn to listen not everyone else, before anything integrity comes first and knowing yourself is the greatest goal you can acquire and once you do you will feel the same power i feel when i walk in these streets the power of feeling comfort within, love yourself first and even on your lowest days you will be able to stand.

 

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“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

Text written by Marco Jair Lopez
September 30, 2014

England, London