Mental X Mindset

I’d like to start by acknowledging those of you who have been following me on my journey and supporting my writing – thank you. I appreciate every single one of you, particularly those who in my absence from writing have taken the time to contact me via social media sharing their thoughts on my blogging. Your support does not go unnoticed.

For the past two years I’ve neglected my writing, life got in the way and I’m sure you can all relate to that. I made a promise to myself, I vowed to write REAL things, things in which felt right when I put the words on paper. I didn’t and still don’t want to write for the sake of it, I want to remain free spirited and express myself organically; for myself and those who have supported me thus far. So, here goes nothing…

I’ve been growing as a person these past few years, happily experiencing new things and cautiously accepting the flaws of myself & those around me. As if that wasn’t enough, I’ve been left with the great task of dealing with the trials & tribulations of  young adulthood…

We live in this beautiful, dark, sinister and twisted world where we get older physically, wiser mentally and stronger emotionally. I’ve come to realize the importance of inner peace and the acknowledgement of ones mental health. We ALL underestimate the importance of how powerful our brain is, it seems to be natural, doesn’t it? We can do anything if we set our mind to it, positive or negative.
You could be chasing a dream, achieving a personal goal, abusing drugs or even attempt to take your own life and that’s the scary part, because once your brain is sent that signal to act in a negative situation, it’s damn near impossible to stop. That being said, it CAN be helped!

Let me explain… In your 20’s for example your mental state is of the most importance because your journey through life and finding yourself is all dependent on it. Finding your destiny is dependent on it.

Whatever you go through in life you never have to go through it alone. Understandably, not everyone is a people’s person but God (or science whatever you believe in) didn’t put seven billion people on earth for us to be fighting psychological battles alone. When it comes to dealing with personal problems mentally I always advise openness. Speak to someone you trust because as people we are far more vigorous together than alone. People are here for you so you don’t ever have to feel alone in this world.
As someone who has had first hand experience with this, I’d like to tell you all a story close to my heart. I had a friend who lost his intellect and began to feel paranoia, paranoia over people and the environment he was in. He became uncomfortable being out in the open, doing normal things in public. This is someone I grew up with, someone I had direct contact with regularly, so at first I didn’t understand. I thought it wasn’t serious until he started to doubt me as someone who was “spying on him” as well as being paid by the government to watch him, bearing in mind this was someone I’ve known for 10+ years. To cut a long story short, what I learned from him was the lack of communication he had with people caused him to hold in all his emotions which evidently got the better of him.  However, once he got out of this mental institution he put himself in and started to surround himself with pure whole-hearted  people who cared for him I slowly started seeing my friend become stable, become himself, become mentally free. I have to admit that I wasn’t aware my friend was going through this until he contacted me, so what I’m trying to say here people is mental health is REAL! You never know who could be going through this so please please check on your family&friends.

That being said, I’d like to end this by giving gratitude. Gratitude for our women who will one day go on to be great mothers to the next generation of geniuses. Your mindset is just as important as your image. A beautiful spiritual healthy mind is far more important to have than a good looking image which fades, your mind-set never gets old it only gets better with age. I like to believe girls never focus on the guys who bring them flowers but focus on those who don’t. Start to appreciate people in your life who give more than they take from you, focus on those who genially care for you because you haven’t got much except a few people who really care about you In this world. Forget those whose love you with limits, love is endless, the size of rivers & lakes , so I urge you to love those who have love for you, as big as an ocean. You bring life into this world, this shows your importance, it doesn’t get any deeper than that ladies.


“It’s up to you today to start making healthy choices. Not choices that are just healthy for your body, but healthy for your mind.”
― Steve Maraboli


Text written by Marco Jair Lopez

Oct 22, 2016

England, London

Thought Of Failure

I’d like to start by expressing my greatest gratitude and thanking all those who have viewed my blog and supported my writing, the feedback is absolutely amazing.

WOW, Failure! The word FAIL in itself gives you remembrances of all the times you felt hopeless & inadequate. The thought of failure is almost certainly something that haunts us all and is one of the hardest obstacles to overcome particularly when you’re just a teenager. There is an abundant amount of pressure we’ve all had to face in a timely manner, due to others wanting to see you succeed. The thought of failure is something you just can’t handle. Well, I’ve failed countless times, I mean who hasn’t right? Failing isn’t as bad as it may seem, so don’t feel like it’s the end of the world if you don’t accomplish everything you’ve wanted in the timeframe you’ve imagined. Sometimes failure is the commencement of a new chapter for you. One thing we as humans all have in common in life is failure; we have all failed at something at one point or another. Some have experienced this more than others, it is the strength within us that encourages us to pick ourselves up and push past the difficulties we face. This message is for those who are still haunted by failure, who feel disheartened and useless.

There have been many times in my life where I have failed and without a word of doubt it was one of the hardest times of my life. The most difficult challenges I’ve faced were because of my lack of understanding, understanding failure. Trust me when I tell you failure doesn’t mean you are stupid or unworthy, it solely means you weren’t prepared or able to figure things out in the first instance. So, don’t knock yourself down YOU CAN get back up, failure allows you to learn about yourself, it’s a journey towards success. You can’t blame anyone but yourself once you fail, failure teaches you integrity and understanding. Some of us fail more than others because we’re not taking the time to reflect and understand where the problem is, it isn’t that you can’t succeed – the problem is that you haven’t learnt to accept your wrongs.

Three things failure has taught me:

  • Accept the things you cannot change
  • Have courage to change the things you can
  • Have the wisdom to know the difference

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So before you beat yourself up ask yourself if you have reached your full potential. I am positive you can battle failure and succeed in whatever you’re searching for. I’ve failed countless times and it bashed my confidence, self-esteem and pride nevertheless when realisation kicked in everything changed for me as a simple result of me realising i can’t base my life around the thought of this one failure, I mean I will fail in life many times before I succeed, right? There is more to me and there’s more to you too. Some people want to see you fail and you owe them, pay them back with success, stand your ground, keep pushing and strive towards greatness. Slow progress is better than no progress after all. Don’t fear the thought of failing, use it as ammunition, work hard, take risks and do what you have to because in the end it’ll be a great learning curve. You want to be able to look back at life 6-7 years from now and say the old you would be so proud of the person you are today because of how you rose above the infamous fear factor.

“When you take risks you learn that there will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail, and both are equally important.”

― Ellen DeGeneres

Text written by Marco Jair Lopez

Nov 12, 2014

England, London

The power of being yourself, the power of YOU.

Where do i start ? when i say YOU who do you think of straight away ?

No, I am not talking of the person you pretend to be when everyone is watching, I am not talking of all the other people you try act like besides YOU, thats who am talking about here its YOU the person who when you look into your ID it only says your name and nobody elses you know from time to time i think some people ID`s should have all the rest of the names they tend to act like but thats a whole other story, when you look in the mirror that individual there is whose attention i seek because am here to tell you to stop trying to fit in, stop minimizing yourself to be around people who wouldn’t accept the real you, so you gotta hide your inner self and be this individual that people think they know but they dont really really know your just trying to fit in like the rest and be average.

I always say the mirror is the truth you can’t look in the mirror and tell a lie so i always tell people you wanna know the truth about yourself look in that mirror and tell me who you are right now is what your happy with, bring out your inner self forget what people think or care about you because you will find yourself stuck in a maze for a very long time if you care more about other peoples opinions and comments than you care of yourself, so why hide ? why feel like you’re not good enough ? why feel like you’re the one who must adapt, you got to be the leader in your life and be proud of that image in the mirror, you come first by any means necessary, question if thats how you would want your cousins or siblings to live, i always say the truth will set you free. I found myself lost when i was around the age of 15 to 18 until i realised i gotta stop all this trying to be something am not, keeping up with this trend and the latest thing it wasn’t really who i was, i thought it was about fitting in and following people slowly i started to realise that i forgot about myself due to being busy with what people thought about me but i stepped out the box once and saw how deluded i was because half the crowd i was around couldn’t care less about me if something deep was to occur.

So as time went by i grew and matured and started being myself more started leading by example because i would want my friends and relatives to realise being true to yourself is the key and even till now anyone can tell you am myself, i don’t try to be anything but me some will hate that because they couldn’t ever take that risk.  One day when i found that comfort within me and looked in the mirror it told me the truth BE YOURSELF forget about what everyone thinks because this is your life and nobody elses you only get one chance at life so why waste it caring about what people think and trying to fit in, for what i ask ? there’s a reason why when somebody calls YOUR name only you turn to listen not everyone else, before anything integrity comes first and knowing yourself is the greatest goal you can acquire and once you do you will feel the same power i feel when i walk in these streets the power of feeling comfort within, love yourself first and even on your lowest days you will be able to stand.



“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

Text written by Marco Jair Lopez
September 30, 2014

England, London