Mental X Mindset

I’d like to start by acknowledging those of you who have been following me on my journey and supporting my writing – thank you. I appreciate every single one of you, particularly those who in my absence from writing have taken the time to contact me via social media sharing their thoughts on my blogging. Your support does not go unnoticed.

For the past two years I’ve neglected my writing, life got in the way and I’m sure you can all relate to that. I made a promise to myself, I vowed to write REAL things, things in which felt right when I put the words on paper. I didn’t and still don’t want to write for the sake of it, I want to remain free spirited and express myself organically; for myself and those who have supported me thus far. So, here goes nothing…
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I’ve been growing as a person these past few years, happily experiencing new things and cautiously accepting the flaws of myself & those around me. As if that wasn’t enough, I’ve been left with the great task of dealing with the trials & tribulations of  young adulthood…

We live in this beautiful, dark, sinister and twisted world where we get older physically, wiser mentally and stronger emotionally. I’ve come to realize the importance of inner peace and the acknowledgement of ones mental health. We ALL underestimate the importance of how powerful our brain is, it seems to be natural, doesn’t it? We can do anything if we set our mind to it, positive or negative.
You could be chasing a dream, achieving a personal goal, abusing drugs or even attempt to take your own life and that’s the scary part, because once your brain is sent that signal to act in a negative situation, it’s damn near impossible to stop. That being said, it CAN be helped!

Let me explain… In your 20’s for example your mental state is of the most importance because your journey through life and finding yourself is all dependent on it. Finding your destiny is dependent on it.

Whatever you go through in life you never have to go through it alone. Understandably, not everyone is a people’s person but God (or science whatever you believe in) didn’t put seven billion people on earth for us to be fighting psychological battles alone. When it comes to dealing with personal problems mentally I always advise openness. Speak to someone you trust because as people we are far more vigorous together than alone. People are here for you so you don’t ever have to feel alone in this world.
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As someone who has had first hand experience with this, I’d like to tell you all a story close to my heart. I had a friend who lost his intellect and began to feel paranoia, paranoia over people and the environment he was in. He became uncomfortable being out in the open, doing normal things in public. This is someone I grew up with, someone I had direct contact with regularly, so at first I didn’t understand. I thought it wasn’t serious until he started to doubt me as someone who was “spying on him” as well as being paid by the government to watch him, bearing in mind this was someone I’ve known for 10+ years. To cut a long story short, what I learned from him was the lack of communication he had with people caused him to hold in all his emotions which evidently got the better of him.  However, once he got out of this mental institution he put himself in and started to surround himself with pure whole-hearted  people who cared for him I slowly started seeing my friend become stable, become himself, become mentally free. I have to admit that I wasn’t aware my friend was going through this until he contacted me, so what I’m trying to say here people is mental health is REAL! You never know who could be going through this so please please check on your family&friends.

That being said, I’d like to end this by giving gratitude. Gratitude for our women who will one day go on to be great mothers to the next generation of geniuses. Your mindset is just as important as your image. A beautiful spiritual healthy mind is far more important to have than a good looking image which fades, your mind-set never gets old it only gets better with age. I like to believe girls never focus on the guys who bring them flowers but focus on those who don’t. Start to appreciate people in your life who give more than they take from you, focus on those who genially care for you because you haven’t got much except a few people who really care about you In this world. Forget those whose love you with limits, love is endless, the size of rivers & lakes , so I urge you to love those who have love for you, as big as an ocean. You bring life into this world, this shows your importance, it doesn’t get any deeper than that ladies.

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“It’s up to you today to start making healthy choices. Not choices that are just healthy for your body, but healthy for your mind.”
― Steve Maraboli

 

Text written by Marco Jair Lopez

Oct 22, 2016

England, London

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Believe In Believing

Believing in yourself is probably one of the hardest things to do when you have no reason to, especially when all you see is nothing but someone who has lost all hope or value, someone who isn’t really looked at when they walk by on the street, someone who as time passes by nobody notices. How can you believe in yourself when nobody does, how ?

Deep within yourself you can’t figure out something, something you see that is worth you having thoughts of believing you could be something other than a failure. I want to share this story with you guys. This story is about a boy who’s never once had any reason to believe in himself nor believe in believing that one day he could be something. This boy was always different from the rest but he never really had a reason to believe in himself, so because all he has ever gone through have been a constant wave of downfalls from an awfully young age. He began to wander the streets looking for hope as that was the only time he had to reflect on himself. He always questioned “ Will i ever be something more than this “ something more than this boy who has nothing positive going for himself. He wanted perfection, he strived for it, though accepting that there wasn’t anything “perfect” about him. Taking into account every negative thing in his past, kept a positive state of mind. As this boy got older he always remembered where he had come from, as time went by the past began to fade although he still remembered the hard times. I will pause that story there.

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Believing is something that starts from within, how can someone believe in you when you don’t even believe in yourself – question that! You have got to start with you, if you want to be heard & seen it all starts with YOU. Believe in what you see within yourself, believe in what you hear from within yourself. All of those things will give you comfort and within yourself you will automatically believe that whatever is out there is within your reach regardless of the circumstances. Everything starts from you. I recommend you read the article Law Of Attraction, it talks about the importance of self belief. There may be days where you lack inner belief because the burdens of life get on top of you, that doesn’t mean you lose belief in yourself. Always remember hope is bigger than fear, fear is a mental state which can be tackled by hope & belief.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” – Lao Tzu
Text written by Marco Jair Lopez

Oct 21, 2014

England, London

Confidence

 

Confidence is almost the same thing as when i speak of being yourself but it has its own twist to it. Being confident as a person is something I 100% know and probably my strongest trait, I know how it feels to go from someone that has 0 confidence within themselves in terms of how I look, how I act and my own opinions always felt like anything to do with me just wasn’t valid, I was afraid to come out my shell to then having 100% confidence but its not a thing to brag about, having confidence isn’t something you can show off to people its something you show within yourself.

 

Confidence is a trait that not all have but yes we can all build on it and have it in its own particular way, so what helped me become confident was my past experiences mixed with the music I listen to, so I began to realise while I mixed both those things together i started coming out of my shell more, then eventually I stood on my feet and was finally able to like what I saw of myself, accepted my actions because that was me and those that didn’t like it don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind it.

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You know we can all sit there and moan about how bad its been, how you don’t have it easier or how one is better because they have this that and the other. But better than all of that is YOU we all have our own stories, they don’t call history “HIS-STORY” for no reason so embrace that about yourself, while you’re alive everyday you’re creating your story be proud and be confident of who you are, so instead of complaining how you could be better think about how it could be much worse but your still here and that is where confidence should come in as a person. Our experiences and challenges should be making you stronger for the next day don’t compare yourself to others because we are all different and i feel like that is what people have forgotten about themselves.

 

Confidence is what helps you lead and explore, without it you won’t be able to move on as a person, you won’t really learn new things about yourself, you will rather take someone elses solution to your problem not knowing that they aint you, the advice may be good but they don’t walk away with the emotions you do so that is why i speak on having confidence, its very important even if its little as long as its a start. Confidence is that inner voice in your body that constantly gives you reminders about yourself the moment you feel upset over something. So if you wish to ever be anything in this world you have to start first by building your confidence because you will need that guidance within. I am going to end this post with one of my secrets this amazing Steve Jobs speech that i feel like is relevant to this topic but I took out a section of it.

 

“ Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life

Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’sthinking

Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice

And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. “

Text written by Marco Jair Lopez

Oct 9, 2014

England, London

Know your WORTH !!!

The reason I speak of knowing your worth is because I believe it’s very important knowing your value. You know it hurts me when I see people who have such great potential within themselves, but they just don’t know their worth. If you ask me why, it’s either someone hasn’t showed them that there is a light at the end of the tunnel that they couldn’t see, or it’s because they didn’t realise there’s a left you was suppose to take to where the light is. So sometimes it is someone who shows you your potential. So I ask you to surround yourself with people that not only motivate you to do whatever it is you do, but that literally see something extraordinary in you that you can’t see yourself, and makes you question, why do they see me bigger than I see myself? That’s the type of people you keep around.

There’s no time to give energy to people who bring nothing but bad breath and negativity to your life, because it’s about bettering your mentality and being headstrong in this world. You’ll meet some really dark, twisted people who will run through your weaknesses quicker than you can think. And by the time they’re done with you, you’re filled with nothing but dark emotions and feel worthless. I know that feeling. I know how it feels not knowing when things are going to stop. If you’ve ever felt like you wasn’t enough for somebody or felt like you aren’t good enough to be around certain crowds of people. Felt like all people do is tread over you, well that’s because you don’t know your worth.

I want you to drop them thoughts and emotions of feeling like you wasn’t enough, feeling like you can’t be more, always feeling less of yourself. Turn that negative into a positive because maybe it isn’t you, maybe it’s them. My biggest fear in this world is to feel worthless, not having a real value, feeling like a nobody. I felt like that once and told myself I’d never go back there and that’s why I am where I stand today; because I no longer look at myself like I am the outsider.

You know no one has a clue about what you have been through in your life, so why live it feeling worthless. So this is what you do. You’ve got to rise above your problems that are making you feel low – easier said than done yes. I’ve been through some pretty traumatizing things in my life, but it hasn’t prevented me from feeling content with myself. My main quote in life is, “God doesn’t throw something at you that you can’t handle” and He really doesn’t. All the problems that you go through in life are supposed to make you twice the person you are, not break you. Feel beautiful. Feel loved.  Look in the mirror and love yourself everyday. You are just as great as everybody else; if you’re in need of reassurance, speak to that somebody who truly believes in you and be around them. You should feed off peoples’ energy and absorb that emotion they have for you and let that be the reason why you stand strong.

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You will know when you have found your worth. You will see it’s almost impossible to go back to that dark place where it’s lonely. You will care less about things and as time goes by, you will learn things about yourself that you once wouldn’t believe you could do. Once you know your worth, there is no looking back.

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”

Text written by Marco Jair Lopez
October 2, 2014

England, London